The Universe is sending me a message, and I think you should hear it to.
Recently it seems that every where I look someone is sharing that they signed up for a half marathon, making their health a priority, or that self care is making a huge impact on their business. To the point where it’s starting to get weird, like the Universe is shouting at me.
Self-care is something I take very seriously and have been bound and determined not to become one of the “cliche” mother/business owners that is so absorbed in serving everyone else, that I become this smelly, overworked, bedraggled version of myself.
And I thought I was doing pretty good. I shower daily, I take the mornings slow and enjoy my time with my little guy before taking him to the babysitter so I can focus on my work, in the afternoons I close my laptop and leisure outside with my family. We cook amazing meals every day, and savor the weekends. Life is pretty good, and I’m neither smelly nor bedraggled.
A few weeks ago I shared all of this during a mastermind call – again one of those times self care came up – and we were talking about why self care needed to be a priority. Even as I made this public declaration that everything was a-okay, it got me thinking.
Is self care really just about not ignoring your own needs? Or is it something more?
The next day while I was outside watching Eben chase chickens, I decided to lay down for a moment just to relax and feel the warmth of the sun on my face. Seeing me laying in the grass, Eben came over and snuggled up with his head on my chest. I wrapped my arms around him and just enjoyed the moment… until he started sticking his fingers up my nose. Alas, the moment of peace was brief but even so, I felt like I was facing the day more refreshed than I had felt in a while. And something clicked.
I realized, that this kind of indulgence was something I only ever do on vacation – allowing myself to totally disconnect from my thoughts and just connect with nature. It was glorious. In those two minutes I felt refreshed and refocused. I realized that while I’ve been very aware of self-care, I have NOT been focusing on self indulgence.
I discovered that while self-care might be making sure your own needs are met, self indulgence goes a step further and feeds your soul.
In that moment I made a commitment to find simple ways to indulge. Even simple things like drinking a glass of wine under the stars one night a week, or taking a moment each day to lay in the grass and soak up the sun. As a result, I’ve felt more inspired by my business, more engaged with my clients, and all around a greater level of zest for life. Even these simple indulgences have had a huge impact on my mindset and my business.
I have a feeling I’m not alone.
My question for you is, how are you feeding your soul?